Ask Ashley: Money Money Money

Today we are launching a new monthly segment called… you guessed it… Ask Ashley!  Each month, Ashley one of You Jubilee’s event stylists will answer your questions about anything and everything wedding and/or event related.

This month, we are talking about money.

I want to have a nice wedding, but I have no idea what everything is going to cost!  I want to figure out my budget, but I don’t know where to start.  What do people usually spend on a wedding these days?

Depending on the size and scope of your wedding, cost can vary greatly, but according to The Wedding Report, the average cost of a wedding in Arizona was just under $26,000 in 2013.  On average, the cost per guest is somewhere between $150- $190.  

Knowing these numbers can help you decide just how large of a guest list you’d like to have.  You’ll have a lot of choices to make that will factor into final cost of your event.  Plated or buffet meal?  Open bar or cash bar?  Venue or private property?

Don’t worry, beautiful wedding aren’t always about how much you spend or don’t spend.  Discuss a comfortable budget with all parties involved in financing your wedding, keeping the numbers above in mind.  And of course, I always recommend hiring a planner.  While it is an added expense, a good planner is well worth it and will save you money and stress in the long run!  For all the reasons why, read our list of 10 reasons you should hire a planner!

How do I cut down my guest list without hurting anyone’s feelings or upsetting either of our families?

Guest lists can cause a lot of tension during the wedding planning process which is why I always recommend having an honest conversation with your fiance and both of your parents about your budget.  Sit down with your fiance and write a list of the people you can’t imagine your wedding day without.  This list should include both family and friends- don’t forget to include the wedding party in this count.  Then add up how may people are on your list and subtract that from the number of people your budget and venue can accommodate for.  Next, ask your families, who they feel you have missed.

A good rule of thumb, if you haven’t spoken to someone in 3-5 years, you shouldn’t feel guilty if they aren’t on your guest list.  Remember, you don’t have to invite everyone you have ever met- that’s what Facebook is for!This is your day- you can always share the pictures later!

How much should I expect my bridesmaids to spend on my wedding and the events leading up to it?  

It’s always important to remember your bridesmaids are probably on budgets too.  Ask them upfront what they are comfortable paying for a dress and accessories, then try to work within that budget when making final selections.   If you do decide on a more expensive bridesmaid dress, consider working some or all of the cost into your wedding budget.   Keep in mind your bridal party will also be putting money into your bridal shower, your bachelorette party, a gift and possibly even travel. In 2012, bridal party attendants spent on average $577 between hair and makeup, attire, bachelor/bachelorette parties and transportation according to a poll by American Express.  

Do you have questions about your upcoming wedding or event?  Ask us! Either leave a comment below or email Ashley at ashley@yourjubilee.com